Comments on: It’s All About Choices

By: the mum

the mum — Mon, 01 Feb 2010 08:45:18 +0000

Yes it is, isn’t it? Crazy schizophrenic sort of existence truly mess you up. My mom is envious of me being able to devote my time in a career and I am envious of her being able to stay at home with her kids.

By: CY

CY — Mon, 25 Jan 2010 07:55:06 +0000

funny that you should post this….was recently hit by this very thing….my sister-in-law informed that she will be travelling again ( like the 100th time in the last 12 months)… to Bali this time….”sounds fun” I said…to which she said…. “well… we all choose to do what makes us happy…” …. dunno why… but the comment threw me into a spin….

with our recent choice to have a 3rd kid…..(was it really a choice??? or was it really sort of a Russian Roulette ?…. an accidental choice?… or a choice to have an ‘accident’?)…. I really can’t say… having gone through much worry and wariness to keep this child…. we are truely grateful for the perfect perfect blessing….. and yet…

in the hours of mundane milk pumping… the sleepless nights…. the boredom of restricted movements…..the stress of the additional financial commitments….there are times when I wonder…. what have I done?….

am I really ready for the additional burdens of my choice?….

I had been lamenting the lack of time to spend with my kids while I was working… and yet… now faced with plenty of time at home to spend with them during the 4 months of maternity leave….. I find myself to be home with the kids… and yet … not really with the kids…. have I lost the connection ?… through the many years of late working hours?…. that the kids are just not used to having me around?…. and so I am not much different from a soft toy… sitting silently in the house….getting just the occasional hug and kiss….?

I find myself… yearning for the adult company… back in the office…(not the work though!)

so what really have I chosen ???….or have I chosen at all???… or did I just let it happen?… then again… maybe I just chose to let things happen.

By: S.S

S.S — Sun, 24 Jan 2010 13:00:30 +0000

Nothing in life is perfect. There are always two sides to the coin. We always feel / imagine that another way of life may be better because we don’t have it. It’s human nature. We just have to do what we think is right / the best and move on.

Having a full-time job doesn’t mean that you are not there for your kids. Staying at home, on the other hand, doesn’t mean that the mum is really there for the children. Sometimes, it’s a good thing to NOT be with each other too often… Relationships need a breathing space too.

By: Chandra

Chandra — Fri, 22 Jan 2010 05:40:46 +0000

Born as human everybody has to have challenges in life. For a rich person who has nothing to do also has problem. When they go out they need to carefully choose to dress and makeup so that their status is maintained. Funny!

For us our life is around our family, yes it is nice to be at home and watch kids growing. The challenges make you a better person to overcome difficulties. But the children keep growing and your challenges grow along with that. Its never the same challenge. After the youngest turns 21 you will be old enough and physical challenges will come up.

Let us learn to love everything good or bad stay calm. Whatever it is life has to go on…